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Eat Turkey. Be Thankful. Pack and Move!

Today we eat turkey and give thanks!
Tomorrow is moving day!


We have been busy setting up our new transitional place - a beautiful, cozy, safe place for women who wish to take the step and exchange their current lifestyle for a beautiful new way of life. This new endeavor is part of ‘Our Beautiful Exchange’ - a community of love and hope. OurBE

Our first resident, Miss E, will be moving in tomorrow! There is no other way to explain this particular development other than that God was connecting pieces of this puzzle before we were even aware there was one! We want to protect her identity and won’t disclose personal details, but it might surprise you to learn that she is not someone we met through our outreach, nor is she transitioning out of the adult entertainment industry.

She is stepping out of a life of isolation, addiction, and certain kinds of abuse into an opportunity to find true healing, restoration, and become part of a loving community. Yesterday we spent more time just getting to know her. She was already contemplating making soup with her leftover turkey for moving day! 

So, today we eat turkey and are thankful; tomorrow we move, and begin a new chapter!

 


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 While living in a supportive community, women can receive help towards having basic needs met, exploring job opportunities, counseling, financial counseling, medical and dental care, and obtaining a GED or higher education opportunities. Many opportunities are literally right outside the front door!


 

Do you have a problem being a pig?

 

The recent video of the woman who strolls around NYC for ten hours and is verbally harassed, stalked and catcalled over 100 times has gone viral. It has sparked debate on various levels; though many people in general consider it boorish of men to act this way towards women.

A man who has no problem calling himself a pig raised a telling question this week. Does it surprise you to learn that the guys my husband works with didn’t seem to mind agreeing with his answer?

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Mechanic Ken helps one of our ladies

Ken is kind enough to give his time on certain nights to drive and wait in the parking lot when we do our outreach visits to our adopted adult businesses. A few of the guys he works with are familiar with these businesses, but in other ways.

This guy in particular seems to enjoy heckling my hubby about our mission with SSD. He asked Ken one day this past week, loud enough for most of the department to hear, “So, when are we going to get you out of the parking lot and into the clubs?

Admit it…you’re a pig, just like the rest of us.”

He then methodically turned to each man within hearing distance, addressing each one by name, and asked them, “do you have a problem being a pig?” Each one responded, on cue, with a smug and defiant, “Nope!”

Ken’s response? He leaned back in his chair and simply said, “Come on, guys, let’s rise above the slop.”

One lone lady in the department stood up, laughing loudly, while high-fiving the air in Ken’s direction!

My husband, who helps and serves our outreach teams with a willing heart, often endures inappropriate comments and jokes at work because of what we do through our ministry to the adult entertainment industry. At SSD, we encounter men who are openly and proudly misogynistic. And then there are the men who respect women and see them as valuable people - not objects.

For the hundreds of men who chose not to throw out catcalls or lewd comments towards that NYC woman, a high-five to each one of you!

And a resounding high-five to my husband for being the kind of man who knows the truth, and isn’t afraid to act on it.

How would you respond to that question?

 

written by SSD Exec Director, Tammy Stauffer


 

"I think people need to stop"

 

The recovery process needs to be holistic

I think people need to stop being so quick to judge people who dance and work in the industry because what people don't know is that everyone has a story and a past.

One of the ladies we now consider a good friend recently shared this, then went on to share more of her story:

I’ll never forget the day when I found my mom cooking crack in the kitchen. I never knew she even smoked crack…my mom’s habit was so bad she was selling her body. She was in jail quite a few times…

We are honored to know Miss A and be part of her journey at this time in her life. It is our prayer that she will find hope and love, instead of judgment.

All too often, one of the negative effects for those working in the adult industry includes exposure to drugs, drug addiction and alcohol abuse. These issues create some of the worst personal storms one must navigate in life.

iamatreasure.com has this to say...

Research indicates that women working in the sex industry are faced with higher rates of drug addictions, and also mental health problems such as Depression and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder - more so than the general population.

Women in the sex industry face a myriad of issues that impact their physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being. Many feel desperately isolated and alone. Because their hurts and needs are multifaceted, the approach to assisting them in the recovery process needs to be holistic as well. 

 

Partnering with Lighthouse Network

Drugs and mental health issues seem to go hand in hand for many of the employees we meet and talk with each week. While not every person we reach out to is personally struggling with these issues, they are often living with or are related to someone who is.
 
This is why we are honored to partner with Lighthouse Network: a nonprofit organization dedicated to giving people guidance through life’s personal storms. They will assist individuals and their loved ones who don’t know where to go for help when wrestling with a drug, alcohol, psychological, or emotional struggle. They will connect you with a counseling, addiction, or psychiatric care facility through their national database of treatment centers, counselors, and therapists.
 
They provide help from a holistic (spirit, mind, and body) perspective, and are open to helping people of all faiths.
 
They offer a free, confidential helpline and have provided a number specifically for SSD (1-855-790-7560) which is available 24 hours a day, seven days a week. When someone calls the helpline number, that person is connected with a trained Lighthouse Network Care Guide who will listen to her/his story, answer questions, and find the best available treatment options.

 


Mental Health and Addiction Awareness Beaded Crystal Bracelets!

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As part of our partnership with LN, two of our volunteers have been trained to make these special bracelets!

We are excited to offer these for a suggested donation of $20 each.

Each bracelet has 11 colorful and attractive beads to represent one category of mental health or addiction issues. Charms display one encouraging word such as: hope, love, faith, courage, honor, family, forgiveness.

Every bracelet starts significant conversations, raises awareness, shows love and sympathy for those struggling, and is a reminder to call, help, or pray for someone who is struggling.

When wearing the bracelet, it is common to have someone comment on it and ask about the meaning. This has been a great way to start a significant conversation about issues that are usually hidden under a blanket of shame.

We have given almost 50 bracelets to those we reach out to along with the helpline number and other helpful info included in the beautiful gift bag.

The responses so far have been interesting and varied:

  • The charm has my life word on it! Believe – see I have it tattooed on my side!
  • Well, I’ve dealt with everything every bead represents.
  • Can I have one for my friend? She needs this in her life.
  • I called the number last week to talk about an issue I was having with my bf!
  • Can I help make these bracelets?

For a suggested donation of $20 each, you could have one to wear or gift one to someone in the industry. If you are interested, please email This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. today.

Every donation helps us to continue reaching out with hope and love, and building relationships with those we are meeting in the adult entertainment industry.

We recently found this delightful quote: “LIFE isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, it's about learning to DANCE in the rain.” ― Vivian Greene

Help us dance in the rain with those who need a little hope, love and light.

 

 


 

 

 

Just walk beside me and be my friend

 

A young mom of a precious 3-year-old, is a friend of ours who works in an adult business. She surprised me with this text message one Sunday morning 30 mins before our church service was to start: “  I’m on my way! :)   ”

We were not on our way since we weren’t even ready yet! But my husband and I got there just in time to stand on sacred ground beside her singing “oh, how He loves us so....”Ice Cream

Having lunch and treating her daughter to ice cream that day was a bonus for both of us! 

Seven evenings of visits with seven visiting team members to seven different adult businesses kept us busy during the month of August! We put in close to 40 hours of preparation, prayer, driving, visiting and talking to the ladies and employees.

Outside of that, we also invested close to 30 hours, including driving time, to help a few girls with things such as:

-        Online applications

-        Career Center appointment

-        Groceries

-        Dentist and Doctor appointments

-        Treating a few to a nice lunch out

-        Food deliveries

-        Celebrating birthdays!

One evening I received an emergency call and was able to have a late-night dinner with a vulnerable young lady looking for a safe place to stay; I simply leaned in to listen as details about her complex situation came to light. Our main mission at this time was to offer her a much needed place of rest on a temporary basis until her true needs and the necessary next steps were revealed. The most important thing to her at that time was to know how many miles were between her and those of us who truly cared about her in case she became afraid. Hours and driving distance didn’t matter on this night to me or the team members involved…those details simply got lost in the thoughts and prayers on the way home after safe arrangements had been made.

We are learning that true friendship with these ladies and their families means that we get to enjoy the journey with them, whatever the need may be. It’s simply being available and offering to walk beside them no matter the distance or the hour – this is what makes the biggest difference between building a community or just offering a service.

Would you believe that our very next Sunday started almost exactly the same way? “Okay, I’m on my way; be there in 15 mins!” This text came in from a new lady we met just one week earlier during her first and only night in one of the businesses we visited. We were more than happy to wait, anticipating her smiling face walking through the doors.

Don’t walk behind me; I may not lead. Don’t walk in front of me; I may not follow. Just walk beside me and be my friend. — Albert Camus

 

~ Written by Tammy Stauffer, Executive Director

 


 

You are Invited: Outreach Training and Orientation

She’s Somebody’s Daughter will be holding our first official outreach volunteer training Monday, August 25, 2014 from 6 pm to 9 pm.  ssdteam

Training will be held at the Hershey Free Church located at 330 Hilltop Road, Hummelstown, PA 17036.

This free training is offered to anyone interested in learning more about SSD and/or volunteering as a visiting team member or mentor.

Our outreach team currently visits seven adult businesses and reaches out to approximately 75 women in central Pennsylvania twice a month.

If you would like to learn more about SSD or feel called to be involved with visits or mentoring and are dedicated to offering hope and love to the employees of this industry, we'd love to have you join us.

Please RSVP through our Contact Us page using the word "Training" in the subject line.

 

Our Outreach Mission: We commit to build relationships with - not judge – employees of the adult entertainment industry, therefore creating the context for sharing the ultimate love and hope of Christ, while offering a support network to those employed and to those desiring to transition out of the lifestyle.

 

 

 


 

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Occasionally we feel compelled to write and share about current events or topics related to pornography, sex trafficking, and sexual abuse. Our blog is the outlet for when those urges strike, so sign up and look for new posts in the near future! 

It is our hope with our blog that readers will be encouraged, challenged, empowered, and compelled to speak up about these isues as we work together to create the kind of culture that honors all women.

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