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9:00 am – “Good morning! Are you ready?” 7 opt


Cupcakes. Check.

Gift bags. Check.

Food bins. Check.

Phone. Check.

Prayer. Check.

Home for 18-year-old.  ---.

Our most recent visiting day to the adult entertainment businesses we’ve adopted took a sudden turn when an 18-year-old girl, who no longer had a place to call home, reached out to us for help. After finding out a few details about her life and current situation, a safe place was offered for a few days until we could work out details for a longer term solution.

For those familiar with situations like this, we don’t need to explain that finding proper shelter or a good housing program for this age group isn’t as easy as making one or two phone calls and getting her enrolled.

After making sure this young lady had food, we helped her follow through with a job interview and then transported her in the rain to a safe place for the night.

4:00PM - It was time to begin our visits with cars packed full of food, cupcakes, and gift bags!

Generous volunteers supplied us with enough cupcakes, a July 4th cake, wraps, sandwiches, spaghetti salad, baked potato salad, and fruit to feed an army of about 50 – which was good because there was no lack of appetite this time!

Since we alternate meals and gifts between places every two weeks, two other places received gift bags full of goodies like sparklers, glow sticks, and bug repellant to help them enjoy a holiday weekend and cook outs with family and friends.
 
While the places we visit vary greatly, the comments are usually very similar:   

You’re here!!!
We love it when you come in!

Thank you so much for this food; I was so hungry!
This cake slaps!!! (yes, we’re learning some street language!)
Can I bake cupcakes for you sometime?

When will you be back again?
Can you help me with a resume?
What if I have a felony?
Can we come and visit you in your new office?

I want to show you a picture of my kids!
Do you have kids?

I wanted you to know that I have a doctor appointment next week…

You guys are such a blessing!!!

Bye ladies! Be safe out there… and we often answer that one with hugs and say “We will! And you be safe in here.”

Now what are you doing? was one of our favorite comments from a general manager who says he never knows what we’re up to when we come in to visit!

The 18-year-old is currently safe, and we will be working with a family in our community willing to help her get a better start in life.

1:00AM and very tired - Two of us on the visiting team looked at each other and asked, “Are you sure this is what we're supposed to be doing?”

"Yes, without any doubt, we are doing exactly what we’ve been called to do." 

"Okay! Good night; be safe out there."

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Itzza Pizza Party!

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When the pizza shop is right across the street, it isn’t too hard to have a pizza party!

Many thanks to those who showed up to eat pizza and Red Velvet cupcakes, and complete a Personal Attributes Assessment; from mentors and volunteers to shop owners and the friends we've made through Our Beautiful Exchange (outreach component of SSD).

We learned who scored a 1 in the competitive category, and who would like to see laughter added as an acquired skill!

Mr. F took it very seriously and made sure his lady was aware of her many strengths and abilities.

With this completed, we are now ready to work on resumes.

 

 

 


 

Community: Dangerous or Marvelous?

 

written by Tammy Stauffer, Director

At She’s Somebody’s Daughter, one of the things we do that is an absolute privilege for us is visiting and offering support to those who work in the adult entertainment industry in Central PA. It was through an employee I met and now consider a friend that I learned about this story: 24 pastors arrested this year for sexually abusing childrenNumber of Girls Who Are Abus

(Lest you think otherwise, only ONE of the perpetrators was Catholic. The rest? Your average Protestant pastor that nobody would have ever suspected.)

The list of acts carried out on these vulnerable victims is alarming:

  • rape, sodomy, and incest of a nine year old
  • forcing “morning after” pill after raping teens
  • sexual abuse of mentally handicapped in custody
  • producing and distributing child pornography
  • installing hidden cameras in church bathrooms
  • father/son pastors tag-teaming member of youth group

My friend, rightfully so, was disgusted by this report and posted this comment on her FB wall: “What's disturbing is these are people that are meant to be trusted by parents and children. They are supposed to be an example of the way to Christianity and to break that trust in the community is just sick. It’s manipulation.”

Did you know that up to 99% of women who work in the sex trade, based on numerous studies, were sexually molested or assaulted as children? Those doing the molesting range from fathers to uncles, neighbors to babysitters, pastors to strangers. And sadly, my friend is no exception to this statistic. 

She hit on a very important point in her comment, one that resonated immediately with me: trust in the community. And that is exactly the kind of model at She’s Somebody’s Daughter that we have been implementing: a community that honors women and children, leads to no more sexual exploitation, and offers a support network to those who work in this industry. This network is comprised of vetted, trusted agencies, groups, churches, and organizations that are willing to partner and offer their services to those who need to step into this circle of compassion and protection, to ultimately find healing.

Jean Vanier, who authored Community And Growth writes: “One of the marvelous things about community is that it enables us to welcome and help people in a way we couldn't as individuals. When we pool our strength and share the work and responsibility, we can welcome many people, even those in deep distress, and perhaps help them find self-confidence and inner healing.”

So while it is absolutely disturbing what these particular pastors perpetrated against these innocent lives, my friend and I agreed that we are thankful for pastors and other professionals we know who can be trusted.

We are also thankful to be journeying through this life together as friends, part of the same community. And that is rather marvelous!

 


Remember: you are not alone.

If you have been the victim of abuse or love someone who has, check out our No More Sexual Abuse page. 

If you struggle with sex addiction or love someone who does, check out our Get Help section.

 

Be That Voice

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We have the honor of sharing a guest post written by Timea Eva Nagy. Timea is the Founder of Walk With Me, a Canadian Organization, based in Ontario, Helping Human Trafficked Victims and Law Enforcement.

She addresses the misconception and ongoing debate regarding trafficked victims v. willing prostitutes.

“The difference between the two is only a matter of degree,” says Timea.

Read her full post now:

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To whom it may concern! Please see my final words on the Prostitution debate: I am a survivor of Sex Trafficking, founder and front line worker for Walk With Me, an organization that has been working 24/7 on the ground with victims of sex slavery for the last 4 years here in Canada. My name is Timea Nagy. For over a year now I have been listening to both side of the argument about Prostitution. For a time I thought that we could stand aside of this argument because trafficking and prostitution were different, but I realize now that that is not so. The difference between the two is only a matter of degree.

I originally entered the sex industry when I was forced into it by traffickers, and sometime after my rescue I went back to the business for a few months, responding to a huge financial crisis. I already knew what I got myself into, and I voluntarily returned. But my “choice” to prostitute myself rose out of the lack of any other option. With no money, no access to social programs, no employable skills, and enormous debt, I did what I had to, to not become homeless, and to be able to buy food.

In the media these days, we hear the voices of women who are sex workers, who demand that their human rights be respected in their choice of work. Those women, though, represent a small percent of women in prostitution. Studies estimate the number of women voluntarily making an informed choice to do sex work as between 1% and 10% of women In a research study of 875 prostituted people in 9 countries, 89% said that they wanted to escape prostitution (Melissa Farley, 2003) and that number was 95% in Canada. I speak for the other 90% of prostituted women and men– whose voices are not largely being heard in this debate – precisely because their voices have been taken away by that experience in prostitution.

I speak for the 65-95% of women in the sex trade, based on numerous studies, who were sexually molested or assaulted as children. I was sexually molested between the ages of 12 and 17. That background sets us up to be abused again.

I speak for the 70-95% of people who were physically assaulted while in sex work. Research suggested that 75% of Canadian women interviewed had sustained lasting physical injuries from violence and 50% had brain injuries. I speak for the 60 plus% of victims who suffer post-traumatic stress that is as severe as that experienced by combat veterans and refugees from torture. Fourteen years later, I still carry physical and emotional scars from my experience.

I speak for the hundreds of Canadian girls that I have met and talked to and rescued in the last four years, who have been, and continue to be raped, violated, and exploited against their will

First of all, prostitution is NOT a profession. It’s oppression. 90% of the time. It’s the only job in the WORLD, were you go to work, and every day there is a chance that you could be killed or hurt by your ‘EMPLOYER”, (The Johns or the Pimps). The dangers inherent in sex work are well documented in the research. It targets the young – half of women enter prostitution before they are 18, the uneducated, the vulnerable (native women are vastly over-represented in prostitution). Prostitution always involves a power imbalance between a customer who pays to have their pleasure met, and a person who is hired to act like a sex puppet. Prostitution is rarely, if ever, about two consenting adults choosing to have sex.

I speak for the vast majority of people in the sex trade for whom this is not a freely made choice among many choices, but for whom it is indeed an issue of human rights. Rights of liberty, equality, dignity, safety, all of which are being ripped from us daily.

There does not appear to be a perfect answer in this debate. The rights of some will be curtailed to support the rights of others. Sometimes that is what the law is forced to do. But it seems to me, to us, that the vast majority of people in the sex industry have been shown to be there as the result of poverty, oppression, and exploitation. The only way they can be protected is by abolishing prostitution. The proposed law attempts to do that. The only way that they can be encouraged to seek help is by decriminalizing their part in prostitution and by creating an environment of safety and support that gives them viable exit options. This legislation attempts to do that.

There are two groups of people impacted most by this legislation. Pro-prostitution advocates speak loudly and with resources behind them. But that other voice, of those trapped and tortured, needs to be heard as well. And they deserve to be protected by this country.

Trafficked men and women, and those others who would rather do something else if they had a viable choice (90% according to Lisa Kramer, 2003) don’t have the same voice. We need the government of Canada to be that voice for them.
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We can honor Timea, and all victims in America, Canada, and around the world by simply being a voice. Her post is meant to be shared, and should be shared as many times as possible.

 

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PA Billboard Update

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A generous sponsor, one who cares about making a difference towards these issues, has made it possible for our Dauphin County billboard to stay posted for one year!!

We are also looking for another location in PA to post a third board to continue raising awareness!

This is a little behind-the-scenes glimpse of those who helped make these billboards a reality: from our photographer/designer, to our dedicated advocate/model, an advising board member, generous financial sponsors, and, of course, our amazing PA Lamar rep who offers us great locations and unheard-of deals! 

 

 

 


 

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It is our hope with our blog that readers will be encouraged, challenged, empowered, and compelled to speak up about these isues as we work together to create the kind of culture that honors all women.

We hope you will enjoy reading our archived posts published here that had been previously published on our Wordpress blog.

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