The recent video of the woman who strolls around NYC for ten hours and is verbally harassed, stalked and catcalled over 100 times has gone viral. It has sparked debate on various levels; though many people in general consider it boorish of men to act this way towards women.
A man who has no problem calling himself a pig raised a telling question this week. Does it surprise you to learn that the guys my husband works with didn’t seem to mind agreeing with his answer?
Mechanic Ken helps one of our ladies
Ken is kind enough to give his time on certain nights to drive and wait in the parking lot when we do our outreach visits to our adopted adult businesses. A few of the guys he works with are familiar with these businesses, but in other ways.
This guy in particular seems to enjoy heckling my hubby about our mission with SSD. He asked Ken one day this past week, loud enough for most of the department to hear, “So, when are we going to get you out of the parking lot and into the clubs?
Admit it…you’re a pig, just like the rest of us.”
He then methodically turned to each man within hearing distance, addressing each one by name, and asked them, “do you have a problem being a pig?” Each one responded, on cue, with a smug and defiant, “Nope!”
Ken’s response? He leaned back in his chair and simply said, “Come on, guys, let’s rise above the slop.”
One lone lady in the department stood up, laughing loudly, while high-fiving the air in Ken’s direction!
My husband, who helps and serves our outreach teams with a willing heart, often endures inappropriate comments and jokes at work because of what we do through our ministry to the adult entertainment industry. At SSD, we encounter men who are openly and proudly misogynistic. And then there are the men who respect women and see them as valuable people - not objects.
For the hundreds of men who chose not to throw out catcalls or lewd comments towards that NYC woman, a high-five to each one of you!
And a resounding high-five to my husband for being the kind of man who knows the truth, and isn’t afraid to act on it.
How would you respond to that question?
written by SSD Exec Director, Tammy Stauffer